From the Lioness' Den...

An Open Letter

Hey Dumbass!

No doubt you are aware that you're behind on Child Support. But do you know exactly how behind you are? That would be $1418.32.

Hmmmm....I just took out a loan for $1200 to have my car fixed. But Child Support isn't about me, is it? It's about your daughter. Well....

-She's starting track...she needs shoes for that.

-She's growing and warm weather is coming...she needs new clothes for that.

-She's got a couple trips planned this summer...she needs some spending money for that.

-She's got a birthday coming...she needs something for that.

-She needs to go places...I need gas money for that.

-She needs to eat...I need money for that.

I hear you can be found most nights at a local bar...must be nice to be able to go there and drink, eat, play Keno, whatever it is you do. I wouldn't know because I'm busy being a responsible parent. Several times I have seen you walking around downtown when I'm running errands.  So far, I've resisted the very big temptation to run your fucking ass over. 

I've heard from some people, and from what I've seen, it appears that a razor hasn't touched your face in a couple months at least. Gross. Why don't you not go to the bar one night and invest in some personal hygiene supplies - they have them at the dollar store. Or maybe you like looking like a homeless bum, I dunno.

I've had collection agencies calling my cell number looking for you. Why are they calling me? As they quickly find out, you haven't been my problem for going on two years now. I didn't even get that number until about 6 months after I dumped your ass....why do they even have it?  I got a benefit statement from my health insurance company with your name as the patient....and the date of service was 12/30/06....what the hell????? Would you care to explain that one to me? Thankfully payment was denied because "patient was ineligible". Thank god someone was paying attention.

The child support enforcement person at the county attorney's office and I are on a first-name basis with each other. She called last week asking if I knew where you lived/worked, where you hung out, if you had a girlfriend or who you hang out with, what kind of vehicle you drive. I told her what I know. I also called her this morning after I took Shelby to school and saw your vehicle sitting in the parking lot of the WalMart that's being built merely a couple blocks from where I work....huh. Imagine that.

I got the voicemail messages you left last week at work and on my cell phone when you knew I was at lunch (I know this because you said "I know you're probably at lunch") and had to talk to me because it's very serious.  You didn't leave me a number to call you back at and I haven't heard back from you.  Verrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrry serious indeed.........

By the way, your daughter is doing great. She got 5 A's & 2 B+'s on her report card for 3rd quarter. She played in the district music contest last week, scoring a Superior in the band performance and Excellent in her solo and trio performances.  She's excited about track....she likes the long jump, triple jump and thinks she'll run the 800.  In Girl Scouts, she sold the most cookies in the troop for the 4th year in a row. Her trip to Minnesota this summer will only cost me $17 thanks to all our hard work. 

She's stopped asking about you now too.  I think she's relieved that you don't try to contact her or make plans to visit or do something with her.  It made her feel very awkward the few times you did because you talked to her about nothing but how miserable you were, and what I was doing, rather than what was going on in her life. I think somewhere deep inside she  still misses you and always will because you're her dad, but she will, like I did, move on and eventually you won't even matter to her any more. Your loss.

me

so sorry

1:48 PM, Mar. 19, 2007 .. Posted by rockinmama

Wow.... your letter made me cry... tears for you and your daughter. I'm sorry that you have to be in this situation and for the pain - emotionally and financially that this is causing you.

You are obviously doing such a wonderful job with your daughter - and she is lucky to have a mom who loves her so much.

The worst part....

2:27 PM, Mar. 19, 2007 .. Posted by AndeeDawn

To me, the worst part is if Dumb*** could read this letter, he would probably say that you are making things up and blowing things out of proportion. The idiot would say that he doesn't see Shelby because YOU make it difficult. He would turn every fact around to make him look like the wronged party.

You are right. It is nothing but his loss. What comes around, goes around, girl. And his day is coming.

SOBS

6:53 AM, Mar. 21, 2007 .. Posted by newfieswoman

Me heart breaks for yer girl. She doesn't deserve this from a father. Well there's a line in a song, goes something like this, any fool can make a baby, it takes a man to raise a child. Quess we know where he falls huh?

Me is glad yer outta that relationship cuz yer doing so good now. Yer alot happier , yes? Yer daughter is happier , yes? Then it all worked out for the best.

And yer other friend is right. If dumbass seen this he would place EVERY SINGLE PIECE OF BLAME ON Y.O.U. Why? Because he's a dead=beat who can't handle responsibility.

Leo sounds much nicer smarter and he'll really ride shotgun for me??? LMAO... Betcha Dumbass wouldnt do that if ya asked him to for a friend would he?? ;)