From the Lioness' Den...

Can't I Fast-Forward the Next 6 hours?

Pleeeeeeease? I'm whining because I have to go to a court-ordered parenting class from 6:30 - 9:30 tonight. An hour away. A town I don't know really well. The whole reason for this class is so we act like adults while we are going through this divorce and don't use the kid against eachother, don't drag her into the middle of things, blah, blah, blah. I AM NOT THE ONE WHO NEEDS IT!! The S2BXH does, though. There is a pamphlet that we got in the envelope from the court that lists Do's & Don'ts with kids during a divorce. I can honestly say that he's guilty of probably 10 of the 12 things covered in that list. Every weekend that she spends with him, she comes home all full of ideas like..."Couldn't you & dad just get together like once a month?" "We need to go do something as a family" and my personal favorite, "Mom, why are you trying to turn everybody against dad so they don't like him?" that one is from this past weekend. I've tried to explain to her that I'm not turning anyone against him, if people are turning against him, it's because of the way he's treated them or has been acting around them or whatever. I am doing my best not to bad mouth him in front of her. Of course, everytime we have a disagreement and she is around to hear it, she jumps right on over to his side. She'll say "I don't know why you always have to be so mean to him."  Never does she say things like that to him. But, that's the way it's always been since the day she was born. She's had him wrapped around her little finger from day 1. I used to think it was cute. But now, it's a pain in the ass. I have always been the bad cop. The disciplinarian. The rule maker. He's always been Mr. funtime. Mr. goof off all day when mom's not here. Mr. let's bend or break the rules and see how long we get away with it.  Oh, well I guess it's not gonna do me any good to whine about how much I don't want to go. I guess I should just look at the bright side, and tell myself that in 6 hours, it will all be over, and I won't have to do it again. Then I can just wait and see if he gets the class completed within the 90-day time frame we were given.

oh dear

6:25 PM, Sep. 12, 2005 .. Posted by Bruinsmama

I know it sucks about having to go to that class,but try to relax and have an open mind. Maybe you will learn some new tips or tricks about Parenting. We can all use the help, no?
best of luck with the Divorce. My parents were divorced when I was 11 and it can be a real spirit crusher.
hang in there!
Bruinsmama

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6:32 AM, Sep. 14, 2005 .. Posted by BrenMOM2G

If you go and complete the class, it shows that you are truly interested in maintaining a calm household during the divorce... it is amazing that the 'fun' dads don't have time for this and sooner or later, the kids realize that the 'fun' dad was that way only to win some loyalty. My niece and nephew had to realize this --took my niece longer than my nephew but believe me, now they see him and his new life as it is---- not a good choice. So as of now, they do the obligatory visits and dont' hold him to anything he promises.
All the time, my sister was holding steady and keeping her rules the same and it turns out that she is their "rock".
So be strong and steady, it will pay off.